By Bontle Senne and Sara-Louise Ackrill

Forget “Normal.” It’s Time to Rewrite the Rules on Love, Lust, and Relationships for Neurodivergent Women

Neurodivergent women are done apologising for being “too much” or “not enough.” In The ND Lovers Club: How Neurodivergent Women Lust, Like, and Love, authors Bontle Senne and Sara-Louise Ackrill break down the barriers of shame and stereotypes to show that ND women don’t just deserve love—they excel at it.

This unapologetically feminist manifesto-meets-self-help book dives into the messy, magical world of dating, sex, and relationships as experienced by ND women. With wit, wisdom, and plenty of f-bombs, Senne and Ackrill explore how ADHD, autism, and other neurodivergent identities shape how women approach intimacy. Spoiler alert: it’s not the same as what Big Bang Theory or Elon Musk might have you believe.

Why This Book Is the One ND Women Need Right Now

Forget tired self-help tropes. This book is about keeping it real:

· Love and Lust Without Apology: ND women aren’t broken, weird, or hard to love. They’re different—and that difference is what makes them amazing partners.

· Sex Isn’t a Performance: Whether you’re exploring kinks, dealing with mismatched libidos, or navigating asexuality, this book dives into why sex can be both tricky and transformative for ND women.

· No More Masking: From masking in relationships to rejecting societal norms, The ND Lovers Club shows how to embrace your authentic self in love and life.

· Unlearning Media Myths: No, being autistic doesn’t mean you can be a jerk. No, having ADHD doesn’t mean you can ghost people. Senne and Ackrill dismantle stereotypes and set the record straight.

Key Takeaways for Readers:

· You don’t have to sacrifice who you are to find love, have sex, or be in a relationship.

· Emotional regulation, communication, and consent are learnable skills—whether you’re neurodivergent or neurotypical.

· ND women are not the “problem” in relationships, and it’s time society stopped blaming them for not fitting into NT molds.

Who Should Read This Book?

If you’ve ever felt like you’re too much, too emotional, too distracted, or too complicated to date, this book is for you. If you’re an NT partner who loves an ND woman (or wants to), this book is also for you. It’s a game-changing read for anyone ready to challenge traditional ideas of relationships and intimacy.

Praise for The ND Lovers Club

“This book is a breath of fresh air for ND women who are sick of being told they’re unlovable. It’s bold, empowering, and packed with real talk about love and relationships.” — Chris Riches, Daily Express

“A much-needed antidote to stereotypes about ND people and intimacy. Finally, a book that centres ND women and celebrates their unique perspectives on love and lust.” — Richard Moriarty, The Sun

Meet the Authors

Bontle Senne is a powerhouse transformation expert, author, and speaker with a track record of shaking things up across industries. She brings her no-nonsense approach and personal ND journey to this book, creating a voice that is both relatable and razor-sharp.

Sara-Louise Ackrill is a therapist and entrepreneur known for her wit, warmth, and passion for helping ND people thrive. As a self-proclaimed neurodiversity evangelist, she combines personal insights with professional expertise to deliver a book that’s equal parts inspiring and practical.

Why This Book Belongs on Every ND Woman’s Nightstand:

The ND Lovers Club is more than a book—it’s a movement. From busting myths to sharing actionable advice, this book invites readers to embrace their neurodivergence and redefine what intimacy looks like on their own terms.

Availability

The ND Lovers Club: How Neurodivergent Women Lust, Like, and Love will be available in paperback and eBook formats from Feb 17th